Motivational Monday: Find Happiness in Yourself

So often we find happiness in things and other people, but when those things are gone we are lost, confused and end up becoming sad or worse depressed. Too often we put too much stock into things, too much pressure on people for them to define who we are or why we are happy. Until you are truly happy with yourself, you will never be happy with anyone else. So how do we do this? How do we find happiness in ourselves?

First: Define your reality

This may seem simple to some or confusing to others but so often we look to movies or books and start to develop these wonderful ideas about what life is supposed to be like. We start to define our reality as that of a movie, but in actual time life is nothing like a movie. First, to be happy, you must define your place, your life, your reality. If we open our eyes, we will see that life presents us with so many possibilities, open doors to new opportunities and ways to help us along the way to figuring out what we want our life to be. In life, you always have a choice, positive or negative, you always have a choice when a new opportunity presents itself. Start defining your reality but doing the things YOU like. Stop going to events and things because you think that is what you are supposed to do. Spend more time doing things that make you happy.

Second: Take the time you have and use it wisely

Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day, so why it is that so many people seem so happy and are able to get everything that is necessary done while you struggle? Because they focus, they prioritize and they do what makes them happy. Join activities you want to do. Spend time with those that are a priority to you and who also make you a priority. If you waste your time trying to please others, not only will you fail, you fill become sad and unfulfilled. Do not worry about what others will think of your choices, people will always have an opinion you are the one that chooses to allow it to affect your or not.

Third: Enjoy...simple right?

Take time to think of things you truly enjoy. The things that when you picture them make you smile. Allow these things do define your choices for how you spend your time and what you do on a daily basis. Spend more time doing the things that you find fun or enjoyable and stop worrying who is going to be there or who you can do it with. Now I find sometimes on a Saturday night I will just watch TV and read. WHY? Because I enjoy these things, and all too often we always have something planned and find ourselves burnt out too easily. Stop. Slow down. Stop going a million miles a minute.

Fourth: Ignore those who try to intimidate you

So how do you ignore a family member, boss or even a friend who is bringing you down. First you have to accept and acknowledge that others are always going to have an opinion no matter what you are doing. People will not always understand why you make the choices you do, but they do not have to. That doesn't mean you can be negative or share a harsh word. Don't beat yourself down just because someone doesn't agree with your lifestyle. Those who are important and truly care about you will be there. The rest....well honestly you are better off without them. Do not become angry with others, we are all insecure. That person may want to do what you are trying but just may lack the confidence.

Lastly: Find the happiness within

Start realizing that everything you need to be happy is already inside of you. When you stop trying to find happiness in materialistic goods or people you will start to see your potential. You just lack the enlightenment and that is okay. When you look at situations there truly is more positive than negative. At first it may be cloudy, but take time to realize that you always have a choice. We are constantly learning, constantly evolving, that is where the trick to finding happiness is. Allow yourself to grow, to step out of your comfort zone and determine what you want for yourself. The rest will fall into place and you will find you lead a better quality of life.